Living for Love, Not Losing Yourself in It

by Maria Alexiadou – Soul Renaissance Coaching

We all want to love deeply. To feel connected, to be seen, to matter to someone.
But somewhere along the way, many of us forget that love is supposed to hold us, not consume us.

We start shaping our lives around the idea of being loved.
We make decisions based on keeping others close.
We stay silent when we want to speak.
We try to please, to adapt, to avoid conflict.
And while it may look like love, it slowly turns into something else, a quiet disconnection from who we truly are.

Love is not meant to erase you

Real love doesn’t ask you to disappear.
It invites you to be present, expressive and alive within it.
When you lose yourself in relationships, you lose the very essence that made you lovable in the first place — your individuality and your truth.

Healthy love is a meeting between two whole people.
It is not about rescuing, controlling or proving your worth.
It is about rhythm, understanding and the courage to stay authentic even when it feels uncomfortable.

How it happens

Losing yourself doesn’t happen in one moment.
It happens through small daily choices.
When you say yes while everything inside you says no.
When you apologize just to keep the peace.
When you give more than you can handle because you fear that love might leave.

One day you realize you have become the guardian of everyone’s happiness except your own.

Reclaiming yourself within love

Healing begins the moment you remember that you can be devoted without disappearing.
It is not selfish to want space.
It is sacred.
Boundaries are not walls.
They are ways to meet each other in truth.

At Soul Renaissance Coaching we work with people who have given too much of themselves in relationships.
Some gave everything to romantic partners.
Others lost themselves in family expectations or professional roles.
Together we learn a new way, to love without self-erasure and to stay open without being consumed.

Through reflective conversations, personal workbooks and gentle but deep exercises, clients begin to recognize their emotional patterns and rebuild their sense of self.
They start to connect again, but this time from choice, not fear.

What living for love really means

To live for love means to make love your center, not your prison.
It means giving because you want to, not because you are afraid not to.
It means being true, not perfect.

When love becomes a space where you can exist fully, it stops being a test and starts becoming a home.

A quiet reminder

Love is not about losing yourself.
It is about finding a home in who you are and letting someone else meet you there.

Maria Alexiadou
Certified Life Coach & Mental Health Counselor
Soul Renaissance – Coaching for Greeks Abroad